Everyone seems to be saying it these days, "Take time for you." There's something to be said for taking time out of your busy schedule to do something enjoyable. Many times, Mom (and in some cases, Dad) is left to be primary care-giver, need-meeter, and on and on from dawn 'til dusk. This is especially true if you home school.
Not only is your role challenging, it is down-right exhausting! Something as small as letting the kids play outside while you sit in a chair and watch them is sometimes enough to recharge your weary body & mind. Other times, a trip to the store alone, or even a quiet moment to plan a spring garden can be just right to put your emotions back on track. A quiet hour to read a good book before bed can work wonders, too.
At-home Moms (& Dads), whether working, schooling, or just being there, are not the 9-5 Moms (& Dads) who earn recognition at work. Our children and spouses are usually the last to thank us for the things we do. I have yet to win a ribbon or prize, or even get a specially marked parking space proclaiming me "Teacher (or even Mom) of the Month."
And so, deliberate planning of time-out for Mom is an absolute must for sanity's sake. If you know someone capable, whom you trust around your children, by all means, ask them to come over for a while so you can go out. Some of us may not have this luxury, monetarily speaking. That's ok. Do a Mom swap. Swap one day a week with another Mom. She can watch your kids while you get some "me" time & vice versa. If this isn't an option for you, consider speaking to your spouse about taking charge for an hour or so, or at least long enough for you to get a breath of fresh air. He may even agree to putting the kids to bed so you can soak in a warm tub.
Remember, I'm not telling you it's OK to be selfish -- it's definitely not! I'm simply reminding you that in order to take care of others, you must first be able. In your quest for help, don't forget to go to the One who has put you here to begin with. God is the ultimate source of our strength.
Here's what you do. Even if your husband is a homebody, you can still secure "date nights" together. For example, after our kids go to bed, my husband & I spend time reading the Bible & praying. We may not read aloud together, but we are together. After that, we may spend time recounting the day's events or watching a favorite TV show & eating a bedtime snack together. On cold, rainy days, we stay in & have a cup of coffee together on the couch while the kids watch cartoons. This gives us time to relax & just be together and talk.
On weekends, I make it a point to not plan anything. To me, that's my husband's day, since he works outside the home. I feel he's earned the right to decide what happens on those days. Household chores & other things can wait until another day or later in the day. We usually try not to be concerned with those things over the weekend & just focus on having fun together as a family. (This is especially great for me as a home school Mom!) If the chores just can't wait, enlisting your kids can help to build character in them and be a time-saver for you.
Whatever you decide, just be sure to schedule some uninterrupted time with your significant other. This way, your relationship will not suffer from your busy schedules. Above all, ensure that you take the time to show appreciation for your spouse, even if he (or she) does not initially give back. You'll feel better for doing the right thing. Just remember that serving others is really serving the Lord.